Last Friday night, I delivered a speech to over 400 people who live with Sjögrens (just like me). This disease effects approximately 4 million people in the US, yet is drastically under diagnosed and under supported by the medical community. Thank heavens we have the Sjögren’s Foundation that produces these events so we can stay informed about our disease. The conference also gives us the ability to chat with other patients about how they manage their life with an Autoimmune Disease.

I was honored to deliver the keynote speech at dinner and even more honored that so many people responded positively to my story and some of the ideas I presented. As promised, I am gong to recreate the speech on this blog, so the tips and illustrations I presented can be easily available.

I will segment my speech into several blog posts, this first one focusing on my experiences the 8 years before diagnosis and the first few years after diagnosis.

Before Life with an Autoimmune Disease

As I stated in my speech, and referenced in the About area of this blog, I was a go-getter as a young professional woman. I was an early Microsoft employee who then went on to form my own multimillion dollar technology marketing firm. I was CEO of that firm for 17 years. However, the last few years, I was having medical issues and was completely exhausted. I sold that business in 2000. It was a bumpy sale and closure during the bust which added an extreme layer of stress.

Between 2000-2004 I tried to rest and heal. I created a consulting business to perform independent projects. Next up was a small  Jazz production company to help manage some highly talented musicians. I was still exhausted and getting more ill and more dry. During this period I moved from Seattle to Palm Desert, thinking the sunshine would heal me. But it did not heal me and I continued to worsen. I thought the extreme eye and mouth dryness was because I lived in the Desert (well it probably didn’t help).

My Sjogrens Diagnosis

My body decided to break down and I was finally hospitalized in April 2005 for three weeks. However, it was not until January 2006 that I received the diagnosis of Sjögrens Syndrome (now called Sjogren’s disease). My first reaction was one of RELIEF! Now that we know what this disease is, we can CURE it!

I was placed on Plaquenil and was told that it could take up to six months to take full effect, so I thought that I would be back to normal in 6 months or less. I was not.  Then the long journey of grieving began.

Living in the desert was not a great living environment for a Sjogrens patient, so I also needed to make a move to a more comfortable environment.

After moving to Sonoma, I sank into a depression because I could not figure out how to create a new life that included dealing with my Sjögrens. I always thought my life would be one of building businesses and traveling the world, and I was so tired that I couldn’t even imagine doing these things. I sought out a counselor to help me redefine myself….”who is Janet now? And how can I be happy with this new person?”

Life with an Autoimmune Disease — the Grieving Process

GriefStages_Sjogrenslife.comI began to work on the Kübler Ross stages of Grief with the mission of finding my NEW NORMAL.

Accepting that I was probably not ever going to have a cure for Sjögrens was a tough pill to swallow and I knew that I needed to accept my “new normal” state of being. I began the work of determining how to still be ME,  while altering how much time and effort I could put into living each day. One thing was for sure….I still needed to make a living and pay my bills.

Who am I with an Autoimmune disease?

So my kernels of truth about my personality that I felt I needed (and wanted) to maintain throughout my life:

  • I want to be viewed as kind and very competent
  • Ideas and productivity matter to me — I am an entrepreneur 
  • I was raised to believe you can achieve anything with hard work
  • Learning is important to me.
  • Travel and exploring cultures is a passion.

At this point in my Sjögrens Journey, I was 2-3 years past diagnosis (so around 2008-2009).

The next few blog posts will lay out my process and life plan for how I navigate living with an autoimmune disease. These are things that I have learned the past 10 years living with Sjögrens, and they work for me. I hope there are a few ideas that can help you, too.

What I can say is that I now am a generally happy person, living a life that fits my personality and accommodates the self-care I need to manage my Sjögren’s. In essence, I do feel completely like “ME” every day….but just a little bit slower.

Living life with an autoimmune disease is not easy. Looking at patterns and creating a plan of self-care has been a big help for me. But this does not change the fact the life with an autoimmune disease is a challenge!

In the next post I will be presenting my personal model of Autoimmune Grief and Life.

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